What is YOUR definition of success?

I know this blog is supposed to be geared toward woman in their 20’s, however, I can’t get this off my mind. Crime. The rate of young people killing each other is so high these days it blows my mind. This blog entry pertains to not only young women, but young men as well. I know there are organizations out there to stop violence and help less fortunate communities & people, but something bigger has to happen in order for this to stop.

Something not everyone knows about me is that I grew up in an area where I couldn’t ride my bike around the block. Where if the sun was down, we were not allowed to play outside, unless we were in our enclosed backyard. This area was not a place I was afraid of, nor is it a place that I am ashamed to have lived. This was home and when your parents make you feel like everything is ok and you are safe with them, then you don’t pay attention as much to your surroundings as you would otherwise. I was one of the lucky ones. We moved to a nicer neighborhood so we could go to a better high school and therefore have better opportunities. The town we moved to was just a couple towns over. Maybe a 10 minute drive from where I lived before, however, that 10  minutes made all the difference. It wasn’t until I was older that I realized what surrounded me as a child. Gangs, drugs, and people looking to move up in life in all the wrong ways. I wasn’t exposed to much of this, because of who my parents surrounded themselves with & who our parents let us surround ourselves with….good people. One thing I’ve learned is that your surroundings shouldn’t make you…you should make your surroundings. What all this boils down to is that I may not have stayed in that neighborhood throughout my high school years, but I didn’t bring that with me. I chose to work hard…go to college…work hard…and strive for success in all the right ways. There’s a sense of pride that comes in knowing you set a goal and ultimately reached it.

One thing I don’t quite get is why people think selling drugs, being in a gang, or taking someone else’s life will lead them to success. That’s pretty sad that someone’s goal for the day would be to set out to kill another human being. That leads me to wonder….what is their definition of success? To lead a successful life (to me) is to live according to God’s rules. Yeah…I said it…GOD’s rules. People get so scared of religion, but I’m not. I truly believe that if you live an honest life, a life with morals, goals, and perseverance to be the best person you can be than that is being successful.

I had a friend that thought everyone was out to get her because of where she was from even though no one really was. She knew where I had grown up & yet still chose to say I thought I was better than her because I went to college—never once made her feel that way, I went to college for ME & MY future. My point is don’t take that part of life with you. When you choose to be influenced by other people, in the wrong ways, you’ll find life will be harder than it needs to be. It may seem like it matters where you live, but in the end…you can get out of it if you want to, even if you can’t necessarily move out of the area. Like I said earlier, “Don’t let your surroundings make you, make your surroundings”. You can strive to be something bigger & greater than holding a gun in your hand.

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