I felt as though I was at a crossroads the other day, not an unfamiliar feeling. This made me want to share my experience with making decisions with all of you.
This has not always been an easy thing for me. I have hardly been able to pick what restaurant I want to go to if the choice is mine. However, I realize that some decisions need to be made with more careful consideration than others. For example, choosing a restaurant, I can settle for…choosing a city to live in or a job to take….careful consideration. You see, some people like to live spontaneously and go where ever life takes them. I would say I am pretty open to these things… with limitations. I don’t know that I could uproot to another state across the country or another country all together, but I would be open to changing cities, jobs, etc….if the time and opportunity is right. In fact, I have done this more than once in my life. Although I am extremely close with my family and get home sick easily, I do know when an opportunity is too good to pass up. My point is, everything you go through in life will teach you something…if you let it.
So going from someone who is the worst decision-maker, to someone who can sit down and rationalize why I made the decision I did is a big step! Believe me, I still am not the best at choosing a restaurants or what to wear, but I can look at my life and say I know what’s best for me and what’s not. All the hardships that I went through in my life have helped shape me in to the woman I am today because I chose to learn something from each one. Look at your life and think about how things make you feel, act, and live in general. You will start to notice what your good decisions are and what your bad decisions are. Listen to yourself and although something may be hard to face, it is probably the best decision for you. From my experience, the best decisions for your life are usually the hardest. You have to find the strength to push through and you will find that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You will be OK and your life will go on. Let yourself feel the pain that you may be trying to avoid and let yourself deal with the emotions and then move on from them. This will help in your healing process and you will ultimately “REALLY” work passed the hard times.
If you are anything like me and have a hard time making decisions, take baby steps, lean on your support system and pray that God gives you the strength to deal with any cards that are dealt in your life. You will come out a stronger person.
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.